1. February 7th, 2012
    I Haven't Been Drunk in 3 Years . . . and I've Been Partying Way More Than You

    I love alcohol.

    I love the relaxing, comfortable glow of a night spent drinking with friends. I love that alcohol makes me more outgoing and comfortable in large groups of people. And, frankly, I love a good cocktail with dinner.

    I hate alcohol.

    I hate spending $20+ on a night out. I hate waking up the morning after drinking feeling like absolute shit. And I hate feeling like I need to drink in order to spend time with my friends.

    Apparently, this guy gave up drinking three years ago. Why?

    It wasn’t a choice of restriction or having less fun, but rather of fully experiencing everything and truly having the most fun possible. The way I pitched it to myself was “You should be able to do all the dumb, crazy adventurous, fun stuff you do drunk… sober. If you’re drunk, you’re not fully there. You don’t remember everything. You can’t experience the adventures fully. You’re half-assing partying!” I took the challenge, but I was in a place where one reflects on life and big changes like this are easier to make.

    There’s a ton of good stuff in his post, but final paragraph is particular great:

    I challenge you to fully realize how awesome life is. To: Party hard. Go on adventures. Make good love. Be bold. Scare yourself. Laugh it up. Be awesome. You already are, and when you can party without alcohol, the rest of your life will become a party too.

    Now, the question is: could I give up my manhattans?

    via parislemon

  2. October 14th, 2011
    "What’s important is how we use our time on this earth, not how conspicuously we give our money away. What’s important is the energy and courage we are willing to expend reversing entropy, battling cynicism, suffering and challenging mediocre minds, staring down those who would trample our dreams, taking a stand for magic, and advancing the potential of the human race."


  3. February 9th, 2011
    Kickass Change

    Ask yourself right now: where is your opportunity for kickass change? When are you going to stop putting up with the soul-crushing, conventional, hourglass-glued-to-the-table that has become your life, and give voice and purpose to what you know you should be doing?

    Andy Rutledge on taking a potentially horrible situation — the loss of one’s job — and treating it as a life-changing opportunity. The fact that he was able to move from a career in retail management to one in graphic design and web development at the age of 37 is amazing enough; the fact that he is, in my eyes, pretty damn good at the latter is even more incredible.

    For many reasons, I am very fortunate. One of them is the freedom I have in my job to explore interests in areas like design and development on company time. And, in my estimation, it has paid off for the company. All the time, I find myself using the new skills I’ve developed to do interesting and ultimately valuable things that I never could have done a year ago.

    It might not be Andy’s Kickass Change, but it still feels good.

  4. November 2nd, 2010
    So You've Made a Mistake at Work, huh?

    You’ve probably made at least one mistake at work that caused someone stress/pain/anguish/etc.

    This thread from Reddit might make you feel better. Check out the link for reader-submitted tales of workplace woe. Warning: You might end up cringing. Repeatedly.

  5. July 12th, 2010
    The Father's Day Balance Sheet

    Food for thought for those of you who plan on balancing a time- and effort-intensive career with the demands of parenthood.

  6. July 4th, 2010

    Why Discovering “Unknown Unknowns” Leads to Decreased Motivation

    I highly recommend that you check out the following article/interview:

    The Anosognosic’s Dilemma: Something’s Wrong but You’ll Never Know What It Is

    In it, the author interviews David Dunning, a Cornell professor, who studies social psychological. The main thrust of the Dunning-Kruger Effect is this (taken from a paper that he and Kruger wrote on the subject): 

    “When people are incompetent in the strategies they adopt to achieve success and satisfaction, they suffer a dual burden: Not only do they reach erroneous conclusions and make unfortunate choices, but their incompetence robs them of the ability to realize it. Instead … they are left with the erroneous impression they are doing just fine.” 

    I think that Dunning’s conclusion is spot-on. I’ve come across many people who match this description. Not necessarily in their lives generally, but definitely in certain areas (work, especially). My point in linking to this article is not to merely agree with it; rather, I’d like to link Dunning’s conclusion to a phenomenon that I (and probably you) have experienced many times.

    Yes, yes, the Law of Diminishing Returns is a well-known and oft-discussed phenomenon. What’s the big deal?

    The big deal (to me anyway) is applying these two concepts — the Dunning-Kruger Effect and the Law of Diminishing Returns — to that aforementioned but as yet unnamed phenomenon that we’ve all experienced. I’ll call it: The Enthusiasm Drop.


    First, consider the graph I’ve drawn below (and forgive my horrible drawing skills):

    Enthusiasm

    This graph represents something we’ve all experienced when learning how to do something new. It could be anything; hockey, Scrabble (mentioned in the linked article), gardening, driving, learning a new language, whatever.

    At first, enthusiasm is high, and it increases at an increasing rate (hence the increasing slope in the first part of the curve). As time passes, however, enthusiasm still increases, but at a decreasing rate. Eventually, it plateaus. Finally, (though not always), it decreases quickly at a steady rate.

    Why is this?

    A simple answer might be that people easily tire of their new things. Nicholas Carr, whose recent book about the effects that the Internet (might) be having on our brain, might say that this is especially true in the modern Internet-era. Attention spans are shorter than ever, Carr would say, and this explains why people fail to stick with new things.

    Another answer might be that enthusiasm for something closely follows relative improvement since starting from nothing means that any progress at all leads to a (relatively) large increase in one’s skill level. This rate of improvement can’t possibly continue at the same or increasing pace over time, so it, of course, wanes.

    I don’t think that either of these two ideas fully explains the Enthusiasm Drop, though the latter is more convincing to me than the former. I think that there is more going on here, and I think that Dunning’s ideas about the Unknown Unknowns might help explain it.

    It’s pretty simple. When you first start doing something new — or even when you first start thinking about doing something new — excitement is the overriding emotion. The possibilities of this new activity are intoxicating. Crazy thoughts start filtering through your brain. Thoughts like:

    • “Wow, gardening is easy! Pretty soon, I’ll be able to grow all of my own vegetables!”
    • “Learning French isn’t too hard — I’ll be fluent in no time!”
    • “Wow, I love playing guitar! I already know five songs — I bet that I’ll be playing in a band soon!”

    You know that you’ve met people who are deeply in the throes of New Activity Excitement. And you’ve probably come across one of them months or even weeks later and found that their enthusiasm for said Activity has completely died. What happened? 

    My thought: Dunning’s Unknown Unknowns.

    When you really suck at something, you don’t realize how much you suck. And when you start something new, you definitely suck at it.

    Soon, however, you don’t suck quite so much. You make dramatic improvement at first, and the excitement mentioned above overtakes you. But then, as you spend more time doing the activity, you learn more about it. And it becomes clear that there is a lot more to the activity than you thought initially. Small details jump out at you, things that you never noticed before. You start to realize how long it might take you to become just mediocre at the activity, let alone good.

    Finally, a realization hits you: You might never be as good at the activity as someone who has done it far longer than you. That sounds like a pretty obvious conclusion, but, remember how the delusions of near-term proficiency dominated your thoughts in the wave of initial euphoria and excitement. The dreams! The plans! The goals! Pretty soon, they disappear in crushing waves of disappointment and negativity.

    You learned what was once unknown to you. The unknown unknowns became known. And knowing how much you don’t know — learning how much you suck — is tough to deal with.

    Getting past learning the unknown unknowns of an activity takes persistence and hard work.

    Take a minute to pat yourself on the back if you’ve managed to do it.